Thought

You need to love yourself first and have self-worthiness before you take care of someone else. Actually when you do have self-worthiness, it allows you to do things selflessly as you are no longer waiting for acknowledgement of your action from the other party. You know that whatever you are doing is for Allah, you no longer waiting around for validation or praises or anything else from anyone else but Allah.

We should not equip self-worthiness, to be self-indulgent, you know.

You will keep giving without any expectation in return, except how Allah will let it be.

When you have self-worthiness, you won’t need anybody else to fill you up. Instead, you will know how you should act to fulfill yourself, and the others, as a good will. It will strengthen your relationship with Allah, and with someone you love.

As if you are waiting for all those thing without self-worthiness, you will end up disappointed. Because no one can really know yourself but you.

And this is where I went wrong. Unconsciously I put other person on top of my list, in which I forgot to love my self. Once the result is coming, you may think you have the worth, but no, Allah does not say so. You need to keep learning, and this is what I learn from my story.

Love should not be transactional.

As it is a purest entity you know. It should not be used a a leverage, or a threat. With love, you no longer expect someone to change. Love will make its way to let someone be in his or her most genuine self, and will let you know naturally that you worth their love.

Love is not demanding.

It is pure, invisible yet true. People say that love hurts, rejection hurts, unsimilarity hurts, but at the end, it is love that covers these things. It makes you feel wonderful again during all tough times you had with your loved one. In the time, your life is not always a stepping stone, but you need to walk on thrones and burning pebbles. Love is easy, it is effortless. It is us who makes it hard by having the idea of loving in a wrong way. Demands, expectations, and things that weren't there, yet you forget to work your way for it.

I always get the idea of loving in a wrong way. I have been wrong all this time, putting my self and my loved one through ways that are not correct. That is why it didn't work out. We all are attached to the nasty stuff of loving, and never routed to why we decided to love someone. We just fell, and instead of working through its way, we follow everything which were untrue, temporary, and full of advantage-seeking. Love is sacrifice, but there is no hurt or sorrow behind. Ones will make the sacrifice for mutual happiness, mutual enlightenment, and each one will be happy for making the sacrifice.

It is not love, if the sacrifice costs you pain and hurt, where you will be entitled with “I am hurt, to make you happy.”